My courtship with my ex was far from smooth, after our incredibly brief first date I was showered with flowers and invited to drive down for another date. (The idea that he could drive up and see me was clearly not an option for him.) That trip ended in a nearly fatal motorcycle accident that ultimately landed me in the hospital for 9 days. Although the surgeon wanted to admit me to the hospital immediately, I delayed the surgery until after we went on a trip to Washington D.C at his insistence. While in D.C. I went for a run to try and get my energy up as I had been told we would have a long night. Imagine my surprise upon returning to the hotel room, he was ready for us to be intimate. My leg was essentially an open wound, I was exhausted from the travel and still trying to recover from my injury. When I politely declined his offer, he flew into a rage. His fury was absolute, I was directed to get out of the hotel room immediately and he began throwing my things into a suitcase. He told me to get on the first flight out of town. I was in shock and didn’t know what to do. I just stood there laughing, needless to say this didn’t help the situation. He suddenly left, saying he’d be out for the evening. He returned about an hour later full of apologies and begging for forgiveness. Underlying his remorse was the theme that if I hadn’t refused him, he wouldn’t have “had” to behave that way towards me. He begged me to get dressed and come out with him for the evening, and I did. What can I say? Love can make you do inexplicable things.
When we returned from D.C. I was immediately admitted to the hospital and underwent surgery. I spent 9 days in the hospital! While I was in the hospital recovering and in pain I received one visit from him lasting only 45 minutes. What was I thinking? Why didn’t I run then? Because the charming, funny and attentive times seemed to outweigh these "minor" low points? The fact that he was only charming, funny and attentive when he was getting his way didn’t dawn on me until I was already in too deep.
That was the first time I had seen the rage he was capable of and over the next few weeks we would see each other frequently. Of course, he still never made any effort to drive up and see me, it was always me driving down to see him. He generally put his best face forward on these occasions luring me into thinking that the ugly outburst in Washington D.C. had been an isolated incident. His intentions seemed sincere and honorable and about 9 months after we met he proposed.
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- Dec 2, 2017
Loving Yourself
Peppermint Sugar Scrub
The best part about this scrub is that it leaves your skin moisturized and clean, and during the cold winter months can easily become a weekly addition to your skin care regimen. I use the same base for my scrub year round and just alter the essential oil or natural ingredients I add, depending on the season. Something about peppermint and candy canes makes me love having that smell on my skin as I go to sleep!
Directions:
Use a large bowl to combine ingredients (preferably a metal bowl as plastic sometimes will absorb some of the oil out of your mixture).
Ingredients:
1 cup sugar
1 cup coconut oil (not completely melted but slightly softened – I usually put mine in the microwave for 5-10 seconds.
5-9 drops essential oil (we used spearmint for the scrub pictured)
1-2 drops food coloring or candy / icing colors
First, measure your sugar into the bowl, then slowly add the coconut oil, mix with your hands and a plastic spoon to make sure it is well blended. Depending on if you’d like your scrub to be smoother or dryer, you can add more oil or less as you go. Make sure the consistency works for you!
Second add essential oil until you feel like the aroma is exactly how you’d like to smell after you’re done using the scrub. I normally add 5-7 drops but this is an area of personal preference. Blend the mix together thoroughly then slowly add food coloring – keep mixing until you’ve achieved the color you like.
Store in a sealed container (glass jars are preferable). Unsealed this scrub will be good for about 2 weeks, but sealed you can keep it for up to 6 weeks.
This makes a wonderful home-made gift to give to your friends. Wrap a pretty bow around the jar and attach an encouraging note.
- Nov 30, 2017
Loving Tradition
When my kids were born, I started the tradition of having an Advent Calendar. The tradition continues on even though everyone is grown and it’s still a family favorite. I am currently looking for a second Advent calendar so that each of my children will be able to carry on the tradition when they have their own families!
The kids would take turns and everyday a door of the advent calendar would be opened; each day there would be a different small gift inside of the calendar. When they were little, it might have been a small toy, candy, or maybe a dollar or two, now it is a pack of gum, Chap stick, an ornament, a Starbucks card or “their” favorite a Lottery Ticket. If the gift was too large, I would put a little note inside sending them on a hunt for the item, sometimes leaving notes in a couple of places, they still love this today!
If any of you have any great ideas, please email them to us at, mystory@fiftyfabulousandfinallyfree.com. We will pass them along - I am always looking for inexpensive and fun things to set aside for calendar presents!
